Back when COVID-19 was supposed to be a flash in the pan, many couples delayed their weddings until we, inevitably, "rounded the corner." However, we've rounded so many corners that we're almost back at the start... 10 months later. As couples decide that it's time to pull the trigger and exchange vows, platforms such as Zoom or Facebook Live are offering opportunities for virtual weddings.
So, yes, you can invite your whole family and guest list, but how do you make the event festive once you're all sharing a screen? Several wedding experts acknowledge that the vibes are different than in-person, but there are plenty of ways to get your friends and family involved, offer unique personalizations and make it a memorable day.
Although there is considerably less prep-work for virtual weddings, both for hosts and guests, Leena Kim, assistant editor for Town &Country, recommends still taking measures to make it an elegant ceremony. Invite a small number of in-person guests. These should be your closest family and friends, as well as someone to film the whole ceremony and ensure top-notch tech throughout the wedding.
If the ceremony is in a smaller venue, or even your own home, Kim recommends doing ample planning and decoration work beforehand. Choosing the right time of day will maximize natural light for gorgeous photos, and decorating your home with potted plants, flowers, bouquets or other festive decorations to fit a themed ceremony will make the location even more special.
Jen Sinrich, a contributor for Brides.com, recommends enforcing a dress code, as well. The couple may choose to pass on the formal gown or tuxedo but encourage guests to dress up, especially with bright colors to make the virtual gathering look vibrant (wedding photographer Julie Samuels likes to use Zoom to put all the guests on a large TV screen so that it feels more like they're in the room with you).
Once you've choreographed the wedding, there are some extra ways to make sure the ceremony is fun and unique. Journalist Estelle Tang, for Vogue online, advises couples to keep as many traditions as they'd like. Consider sing-alongs with guests in-person and online, filming the first dance (remember to play the music on a speaker loud enough for it to get picked up on the video) and encouraging virtual toasts, which can even lead to a virtual reception! Although circumstances may have you skipping the shared meal, Kim is a big proponent of baking your own cake and then cutting the first piece over the virtual call.
Contributors from MyZoomWedding.com also recommend you play games during the virtual wedding. Games such as The Newlywed Game (where you quiz the audience or one of your in-person guests quizzes the bride and groom) are great for audience participation. Also, TheKnot.com likes Zoom Bingo, in which people fill out cards pertaining to events of the ceremony (ex: someone has Wi-Fi issues, a pet starts making noise off-screen, a guest gets emotional, audio cuts out, etc.), although you will need to email out custom cards for this.
Though you might think you'll need to overhaul the ceremony if you have a virtual wedding, with the amazing new technologies available today, the wedding of your dreams is at your fingertips. Guests can still mingle (and you can mute them, if necessary), people can still share toasts and well-wishes and your loved ones will be there to witness your special day.
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